2024

The soft year🫶🫰

I have so much to be grateful for this year, a whole lot. Honestly, it didn’t start on a good note but I still forged on. Things always get better; That has always been my mantra. And indeed, they did🤭

So as usual, brief recap of the year but I really can’t remember stuffs that happened earlier this year (I pushed it to the back of my mind; bad coping mechanism, I know) so I’ll start from where it starts getting better.

June: Frankly, June did not start well at all. I was in a relationship at the time and everything keeps going from bad to worse. I had to go home for Ileya celebration and I was supposed to announce that I was getting married but I just couldn’t bring myself to do it. I confided in my mum and she said if we were having so much issue during courtship, it was not a wise move to take such a huge step. At this point, I made up my mind to end things but I did not end it immediately. Small fuck up from his part and i ‘scissored’ the whole thing without looking back✋. Best decision I made this year (nope, second best I think). Things started looking up for me, I won’t lie and I started feeling like myself again. Started sleeping well, eating well. The peace of mind was unmatched.

July: July was not that eventful. Oh, I had to write my Hospital final exams and aced it as usual.

August: This was when everything started getting so good. Like I was scared at how good it was going. It was so unbelievable. I started getting everything I prayed for with ease. I also had community posting and it was the easiest and most fun posting I’ve ever been on. We had prison posting, lepers’ colony posting, juvenile home postings and it was all fun and educative🥰. August 31st, I found an unexpected safe space and it’s being amazing since then.

September: The thoughtfulness I got and the romance I got this month was unmatched. This was when my softness started. I did everything with ease and God really answered all my prayers 🥰. I can’t really put everything into words but it was too amazinggggg.

October: My birth month, I thoroughly enjoyed this month amidst preparation for finals, projects deadlines, ward postings and all. I still managed to do everything with a big smile on my face. I also started working on my health and fitness even though I was inconsistent 🌚.

November: Had my finals, aced it because of course, big beautiful brain with a pretty face🤭. After my exams , I had lots of free time so I put in more energy to my health and fitness routine and boy, it’s really paying off. I feel more confident and healthy.

December: December has been nothing short of amazing too. Even though there is the stress of getting employment because I’m done with school and thinking of where I would set up my life again, it’s still okay. I even did small oblee😂.

I’m quite happy with how this whole year turned out. I’ve lived and learned. Some of the lessons I learnt this year:

• Omo, leave that relationship alone if it’s not working. Don’t attempt to patch patch anything. You won’t die I promise, things might even start getting better (like mine did).

• Take your health and fitness seriously o. You don’t have to buy this and that online. Just make small research online and you’re well on your way. Lil tip: walking 10k steps daily makes a huge impact. I mean, I’m way flexible than I used to be, I even did a backflip on Sunday😂

• Know what you want and stand by it. I firmly stood by my decisions and I didn’t compromise. A total game changer I tell you 🫰.

• Build a healthy connection of friends and family. My friends particularly carried me this year. When I needed emotional support and I needed my confidence boost, my friends were there for me 🫶. I never felt alone for once.

• Know your worth and charge extra❤️.

I’m a big fan of sitcoms and here are some of my favorites this year:

• What we do in the shadows (US version)

• Ghosts

• American Dad

I’m sure y’all already know my favorite artist this year🤭 but I also fckd heavily with some others. Here are some of the artists I recently discovered and love.

• Hozier (of course)

• Chappell Roan

• Raye

• Ekaterina Shelehova

Additional tip: You’re what you listen to. I started listening to Hozier and I know this is cringy😂 but I started dreaming of the kind of love I deserved and I did not settle for less🤭. It worked for me, it might work for you❤️.

Merry Christmas and Happy New Year in Advance.

I love you all and thanks for staying another solid year ❤️

Warm wishes,

Adesewa🫶

PS: I’ve tried to edit this post but it won’t convey the emotions I want it to so this is a raw post about my feelings, just as it is🫶.

Favorite Music of the year (this was a tough one to choose honestly): Hozier: Be🥹